It is the hardest thing to explain a child the reason why you do some certain things when she starts asking questions. Obviously, the hardest question to answer remains the ‘where do babies come from?’ question. However, there are quite a few other questions which you might be having a hard time answering.
For instance, the ‘why do women wear make-up?’ question. Although it might not seem that hard to answer, it actually is. It is hard to tell your child why are you wearing make-up without sounding shallow. Let’s face it, nobody wants to sound shallow in front of their child. The first thing that probably comes to your mind is ‘because they want to be beautiful’. If you say that to your child, she will think that women are not beautiful without wearing make-up. That is not ok either. If you choose your words more carefully you might find yourself saying ‘because they want to be even more beautiful than they already are’. Then, however, she might get the impression that being beautiful is the most important thing in the world and that is why women try so hard to get their make-up and hair done perfectly. Check out BestMakeupBrushesGuide to find out what makeup brush set you would buy as a gift for your little girl, if you decide on allowing her to wear makeup. Either way, your child will probably grow up to be shallow and believe that looks are more important than being smart. It might sound like a cliché but the truth is that nothing is more beautiful than a smart woman.
Olivia, a 32 year old make-up artist has been asked by her 10 year old daughter, Cara, about make-up. Her daughter first asked her what it takes to make a perfect make-up. Olivia told her that make-up is like painting. You are practically creating a painting on someone’s face. You need brushes just like for painting, only this time you need make-up brushes. Now, she didn’t explain her that you need x number of brushes, such as foundation brush, powder brush, blush brush, eye shadow brush, lip brush, concealer brush, blending brush, contour brush and so on. Children might not understand such explanations at such a young age. Also, Olivia told her daughter that she also needed colors. Again, just like for painting. However, for make-up she needed different types of colors under different forms. Eventually, her daughter understood what was make-up all about and for one day she stood quiet.
However, the other day Cara approached Olivia with another question. In a recent interview, Olivia said ‘she came to my salon and asked me in front of the clients: why do women wear make-up?’. Not knowing what to answer to this, Olivia postponed her answer for when she would come home. The whole day she tried to figure out what to tell Cara when she would go home. You know, when we are children we are told that beauty is superficial but when we grow up we learn that we must always be well-dressed and look good. Olivia couldn’t find any good excuse so she decided to go with the truth. She told Cara about the passion she does her work with and how important it is to do your job passionately because as someone once said ‘Do something that you like and you will never have to work a day in your life’. She tried to keep this subject going, but eventually she had to come with an answer. Olivia told Cara how some women feel insecure with their looks because they were thought that looks are very important so they need something to enhance their beauty and that is the reason why women mostly wear make-up. She told her that there are many women who simply like wearing make-up and there is no philosophical answer for this question, why they wear make-up. The answer is ‘just because!’.
After all these conversations Cara understood the purpose of make-up and started to grow a passion for it, just like her mother. They would often do make-overs together and just spend quality time together.
All in all, I believe that it is very important to be honest. Children don’t need philosophical answers nor dumb answers. They just need honest answers. I know it is sometimes hard to explain a child why we do certain things, especially when they keep asking why and why and why. However, the most important thing is to be patient because even though they seek answers, when we give them answers they might not understand them. Just give them an honest, well-thought answer and they will probably be happy with it.